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Originally Posted by Jords
Wow she sounds very introverted, must be hard getting much out of her then. She might be happy just being part of a 'group' even though she doesnt get all that involved much, just that feeling of being part of something is good enough for her.
You could try listing a load of options to do and get her to choose, if she beats around the bush tell her you have all picked something and its her turn as you want to make sure everybody does something they really wanna do on the trip.
Its definitely not your responsibility but when you form bonds you cant help but think it is slightly. Just keep in touch and make sure she is ok from time to time if she refuses to let loose and enjoy herself going out. And when you do organise that big meet up invite her even if she chooses to opt out.
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I think that's it, she likes feeling part of a group but doesn't like opening up to people. She's definitely an internet dweller too, usually have a laugh with her over online comics and that sorta thing, but in person she's just off in a daze and never really fully there. I'd kind of compare her to Cassie from generation 1 of Skins, in that sense, the whole spaced out not really in the room sort of persona, other than that they have nothing in common
but it's very difficult to get much out of her so she tends to remain in the background when we're all chatting. Yeah I was thinking of going over to the city again in a couple of weeks and arranging to hang out with her for an afternoon just so it doesn't seem like I'm doing things without her, maybe it'll be fun, I feel like I can put myself through a horrible afternoon to put my mind at ease, if worst comes to worst, and ideally she'll be lots of fun and everything will be normal again... do you think that would be the best thing to do? Ahh.
And thank you Shu, I've always wondered xoxox