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Originally Posted by fruit_cake
Well Pyr, I guess we all have subjective experiences and that we grow up with different stories to tell. I don't really like disclosing large amounts of information about myself on random forums but I grew up with distant and emotionally detached parents that I could have slit my wrists in front of them and it certainly felt like they probably wouldn't have noticed.
I, like this girl, couldn't really do any wrong in their eyes either. When I was fifteen I could take drugs, sleep around, disappear for days on end, frankly, do whatever whim took me from one day to the next. I know how empty that feels and although I never did most of those things to any excesses, I do remember it crossing my mind several times to run away when I was a teenager, in the hope that one day some adult figure might actually notice I existed and teach me how to look after myself. I also know as a teenager I would have been able to manipulate most people that were around at the time for those means, and a thirty-something horny teacher with his brain in his trousers would have been a very very easy target.
So, no I don't feel particularly sorry for the parents, and I have my reasons like anyone else does, which likewise are drawn from my own experiences just like anyone else.
At the end of the day though, we all make choices I suppose
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I did too FC, given that majority of time, I lived either with my grandmother or at boarding school: it still didn't mean I wasn't brave enough (or rather... stupid enough!!) to 'do what I wanted to do' - then realised I'd made a serious fook up as I'd still have to face the music at some point - but that thought was overridden by the excitement of being a runaway and I have to say, the fact that I was in effect, sticking my two fingers up to my parents by saying "I'll do what I want" was the one of the main reasons I did it - coz I actually enjoyed the school!!
Yes, I understand we all have different reasons for how we view things and that comes from our own experiences if we've some correlation but this is one that we are going to agree to disagree on.
I have to say though: I have thought ... what if the parents made a statement/public appeal on the opposite side saying, "Look Megan, we're not angry at what you've done or who you are with: but we are getting bloody angry at you not letting us know how you okay, that you haven't let us know you are alive and well.... a phone call from a phone box is all we are asking now get your bloody arse into gear and at least do that and put us out of our misery"...... it has got me thinking.
Gut feeling in me still says it's still not the way to go.
Apart from anything: the teacher is the one bearing the responsibility - he's
meant to be the adult in this 'relationship'. He's showing a hell of a lot of immaturity and selfishness - neither of which are commendable.