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Originally Posted by Vicky.
I did suggest that but she says she doesnt need that, she doesnt see herself as a victim, just unlucky, and she reckons being around others who do feel sorry for themselves (no other way to put that  ) might make her feel that way too. She has come to terms with everything besides being refused the surgery that she was originally told would be available at this stage. She is keeping her mcmillan nurse on though for the moment, as shes acting as kind of..a counsellor. She comes once a week to let my mum vent, and to give her advice and that. |
I know what you mean (or rather, what mum means) about being around others who feel sorry for themselves........ had the same kind of thing with my 'dad situ',,.... then mum.... and I totally understand 100% where she is coming from : so I'd be an absolute hypocrite to say otherwise.
If the McMillan nurse is acting as 'mediator' as such: she may pull some strength and understanding from them - god only knows: they have 'seen it all and more'..... and that's something aside: these McMillan nurses: I recall the care they gave my gran Vicky: and to be perfectly honest: they were bloody godsends - for gran and the rest of us.
I don't know what the right thing is either way: I do know that your mum will be in a heck of a position emotionally: and I honestly do think that 'some' (not it all, not given the incorrect info, not given the 'being duped by the surgeon - abeit for perhaps the best of intentions) - has helped her in coming to terms with all of this - the poor soul is (imo) trying to control what she can: but is left floundering. It does make me think though: why the need to tell a patient what 'size' is: if there is a mass that needs be removed: perhaps the word 'mass' with no reference to actual size equivalent should be considered? Hell knows.
In a way: I kinda wish I could just give her a massive big hug - I get the feeling that mum is using her 'anger' as a crutch for seeming to be braver than she perhaps really feels????? I could be well off...... but hell: we all get majorily thrown off kilter when something like this hits us.
