[Raph]

Originally Posted by *Kate*

I find it quite sad that you have no sympathy/empathy towards him.

I think its good he brings it into the open, and doesn't feel ashamed. I'm very very open now about the fact I suffered in an abusive relationship for a long time, although I used to feel ashamed of it and sometimes that people would think it was my own fault. I'm also used to people thinking I put it out there for sympathy and/or attention. If they want to think that its fine. I just think, why should it be hidden, awareness needs to be raised of this type of thing.

Jahmene is a bit of an emotional basket case - you can see it in his eyes, and my god can I identify with that. At first, before I knew his background I thought he was a drama queen but he's definitely not.

And if it helps him get through the days by putting everything out there, then fair play to the guy. It's his way of affirming to himself that hey, it wasn't my/our fault and I'm not ashamed.

It took me a long time and a lot of counselling to get there.

Excellent post Kate.