[Benjamin]

Unfortunately love can 'blind' you and until he realises it for himself and take that step to change something then your brother will remain stuck. As some of you know, I was in an abusive relationship. It took me ages to realise that my partner was controlling me via emotional blackmail and it was only when he hit me that I realised the situation I was in. Even then it still took me a year to leave him properly, as I felt so dependant upon him because I had let him drive my friends away, it felt like he was all I had. A situation I'm fairly certain your brother is in.

As with your friend who only has time for you when their girlfriend is away and because she seems to have a problem, it is probably because she sees you as a threat to his attention because you wers so close. Unfortunately, as blunt as this is, people change and not always for the better. You may have to face losing him and moving on, you can't remian friends with everyone, even if you have known them for a long time. Maybe keeping your distance and contact from him will make him realise.

The best thing for you to do is try and focus on yourself. I know it may seem selfish and uncaring, but letting it drag you down will not achieve anything. You need to be able to strong if they do come to you when they realise these things.