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Originally Posted by Zee
I do agree that coming forward several decades later seems a bit dodgy, but then again, I've technically been the victim of a sexual assault. Sexual assault isn't always a life ruining rapist attacking a victim in public, or a creepy uncle abusing his family connections. In my case, I was very drunk and was forced to do things that I would never have agreed to do in a sober frame of mind with the person who forced themselves upon me. I'm no worse off for the experience - I was very drunk at the time and I can only remember sketchy details, but I later found out from other people that there had been some bragging about what had happened so other people knew what had gone on. As mad as it sounds, I don't want to ruin someone else's life over something that could well have just been a drunken mistake. They might never do that ever again in their lives. I'm not in need of surgery or therapy over the incident, I don't want to ruin someone else's life over something like that...
However, if, some time down the line, I heard that this person was being taken to court over sexual assault, I would seriously reconsider my position on the matter. That, I imagine, is how these situations come to be. Lots of victims who don't necessarily feel victimised, thinking they are isolated incidents. Perhaps they're even friends with the person who committed the assault. I sometimes see the person who assaulted me socially and I don't harbour any ill will towards them. These things can be incredibly complex...
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Agree with you, and I'm sure you are not alone in what you have described, individuals will react differently, just because it is years later should not diminish the impact, and should be given just a fair a hearing as something that happened yesterday.