I'm genuinely at a loss to understand how anyone can think there is equal blame. This situation could have easily happened after the show, tucked away in a hotel room or a private bedroom somewhere. Imagine how dark this situation could have become then.

It is completely inexcusable. I'm sure if people were watching people they care about in that situation, then their outlooks would be very different. Hazel could be the worst person in the world (which she isn't), but it doesn't give anyone, especially a man, the right to do what he did.