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Originally Posted by kate2013

Two to tango means each owned a part to play. A person needs to own their inappropriate behaviour in an incident to prevent recreating it elsewhere.

Daley needs to accept that he chose to flirt with Hazel despite having a girlfiend. He needs to accept that he was willing to jeopardise his long term relationship for all the plans he had made in his head regarding him and Hazel. He could see the tipping point but he chose to tip it. Hazel cannot make him do that. Is Katies son his? did he ever disclose the existance of a child? these are things I don't know. He needs to accept his controlling behaviour and do what he needs to, to change it. He has an ideal in his head and sort to mould Hazel into it by commenting about her appearance. Hazel has the right to wear her make up as she wishes. So has any woman. The controlling was visible before the drinking. Alcohol only serves to affect peoples morals and judgement. When he already appears to be a troubled individual it does not bode well. Wherever this side of Daley came from, be it his upbringing in which he may have been subject to this type of control and violent aggression, or taught that its ok to treat a woman this way, he needs to learn it is not ok to act this way. It is only then he will be able to comfortably mix with others without fear of himself or others. I hope he moves on from this.

Hazel is controlling in the way she interacts with men. She got off in pressing herself on Daley with "cuddles" so she could give them a hard on, and walk away enjoying the power of it as Daley tried to cover himself. This is inappropriate behaviour and her psychological state has to be questioned as to why she feels the need to do this to men?
As Daley was battling with his conscience, new found celebrity status, ideals, and whether to go for it with Hazel if he could get confirmation that Katie was no longer interested, Hazel never had any real interest in Daley. When the housemates intervened and Hazel was booed and called a Homewrecker, she admitted the Daley thing was out of "boredom." In the safe house the fight for control between Daley and Hazel escalated and ended the only way it could when two people are of this mindset, drunk, on tv, and thinking about their status in the house and the show they are putting on. Hazel in her part demanding cuddles, then pulled his pants down showing all of Daleys genitals to the public without his permission. How would Hazel feel if Daley had pulled her knickers down exposing her vagina? She too should of been removed from the house for this action.



Finally, when everything had calmed down Big Brother (after interviewing an upset Katie) gave the viewers the opportunity to vote Daley and Hazel in to the safe house. An utterly disgraceful move in the face of the Katie inteview which shows that Ratings really do trump the concern for housemates or family members. I truly hope that both Hazel and Daley and his family take something positive from this now they have had the opportunity to see the shadow side of their characters and are able to look at what brought them about and how they can change them, obviously national tv isnt going to be the least shaming place to have witnessed them and been given this opporyunity , but they've got to deal with this now and hopefully move on as more aware individuals.

As for Big Brother they need to start looking at their behaviour and call a halt on things begore an unstable character ends up killing themselves as a result. Know your limits BB, and your duty of care.