[Conzors]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..really, Connor..just what Stu saidapart from the tuna sandwiches, don't be seduced by those, they're terrible things...maybe go home for a nice stew/roast dinner instead...it's hard/strange at any age and many people leave home either to move in with someone..a partner/friend etc..so that makes it a little easier, although it's still a 'tear' from the home sort of thing...or they go to uni etc and then there are many others in the same situation and they're surrounded by people..but you've done it and are on your own...that's a huge step and not a 'gradual' step either...so what you're feeling now is really natural but it felt completely right to you...and you've done so well to have the job that you do at your age, so be proud of yourself...I think maybe it would help and be a good idea to be able to get out socially and meet people..new friends to add to your circle...and to do that, you might have to think about money and whether you can afford to go out..so, possibly sharing accommodation would be an option and make you feel a little less lonely as well...just make sure you don't share a house/flat with a looney lol...but seriously, think about what Stu said and being around people, rather than on your own if that's possible..and trying to absorb yourself in things that interest you as well....

..well done btw, Connor..your parents must be really proud of you...do TiBB members get a discount at your shop..?...



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Originally Posted by Germyle

Ok I'm back.

You really should stick it out for a while longer and see how you feel, if you're still feeling unhappy then move back home. Independance is a stage we all reach but not at the same time. Btw fair play to you being a manager at 20 years old, that's pretty amazing

Originally Posted by Zee

Genuinely think getting a pet would cheer you up so much Conor, good suggestion Tom! Something to look after and cuddle when you're at home! Maybe not if you feel that you're out of the flat for too long every day, but it's an idea!

I've lived in all sorts of situations since I left home aged 18... I've lived in student halls with friends; I've shared a flat with two guys; I've lived with an elderly woman; I've lived with a family; I've lived with strangers in a foreign country; I've shared a flat with two girls; and currently I'm living in a flat with four strangers - I have my own bedroom and bathroom and we share a kitchen. Loneliness is something I've struggled with ever since I left home - but I find that the living situation I have now is probably the best - my space is my space, I don't really have much to do in the way of dishes or chores and everyone keeps to themselves.

Maybe you could look into some kind of hobby that you could do at the weekends? It's hard to learn how to meet people when you're an adult - at school you make friends because you're put together with people in classes and when you're young you just decide that someone's your friend if they have the same lunchbox as you. As an adult, it's hard to do things by yourself because you're afraid of being judged, but if you don't do things by yourself then you will continue to be by yourself, because how can you meet anyone if you don't get yourself out there?

Last night I went out to a club by myself - I really wanted to go out and my friend said he would be there, but he didn't show up so I was walking past the club and the PR people asked if I wanted to go in and I ended up having the time of my life, the PR guy actually came in and introduced me to some people he knew because I said I was worried I wouldn't know anyone but I really, really wanted to go. He didn't have to do that for me, and I'm grateful; but he would never have done that for me if I hadn't asked.

I think you just need to put yourself into new situations where you will meet people and make friends with them. It's hard to do it as an adult, but it is doable!!

Originally Posted by Kizzy

I think the pet is a terrible idea sorry, you would be tied to the flat and wouldn't be able to accept any spontaneous invites out/away.
How many holidays do you have, can you just take the odd couple of days and say a month in advance plan to do things with friends/fam?
That way you're seeing people, it's organised quality time and you have something to look forward to.
Well done your career is going well, friendships will come, stay positive x

Originally Posted by Kizzy

They still need feeding, cleaning up after though it's like having a kid really. He couldn't just decide to take time off and stay at his mums or go to a festival..
Living on your own you have independence, a pet removes that somewhat I think

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Set up standing orders for the bills, and don't let the mess build up keep on top of it then it doesn't get overwhelming.
You might get surprise guests
Have you been out tonight it's halloween weekend, are there any unis near you? socialise boy!

i met people that live inr the house opposite but i dont wanna feel like im bugging them