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Originally Posted by The Baby Jesus
I always try to work to "relationship deal breakers". If someone cheated on me, then it would be over as that's a deal breaker in my view, otherwise it's up for negotiation. I view children in exactly the same way - I'd love children of my own, but I'd much rather find the person I'm most compatible with, so if that is with someone who didn't want them, then I'd take the person over the children every day of the week.
If it was the other way round, and the other person wanted them, but I didn't, then it would come down to finances for me. If we were in a position where we could afford it, then I'd be willing to compromise, otherwise struggling to pay bills and put food on the table and trying to provide for another mouth to feed would be a massive stress/strain on any relationship that wasn't in it together.
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This is so true, after we split, my hubby said he would give it a go but I was scared if we did have a child and things were tough he would resent me and the baby and so I couldn't compromise, I thought too much of him for that.