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Originally Posted by Vicky.
I think most people deep down have a maternal/paternal side. I think it would be very rare for someone to have a child and feel nothing for it. Even if you are as extreme as to hate other kids, its very different when it is your own.
I can only speak from a mothers POV obviously. But I assume it would be the same for fathers.
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I think I would be a great parent but I don't want to have any children because I want to do lots of things on my own that I simply couldn't do if I had parental responsibilities. If you have a child, your life is no longer just about you and I think for many people, especially men, that's not an appealing prospect until you feel like you've done all that you want to do on your own. That's my take anyway. My mum always said to us that we should never truly settle down until we're about 30-33 because being young is all about making mistakes and learning from them, so by the time you hit 30 you've generally got all the stupid out of your system and you're probably going to be a much better person for it. I could never imagine factoring in a child if I want to go out with my friends or whatever, not at this stage.
If two people have different wants on this level then the only thing to do is to amicably break up. One of you shouldn't be unhappy for life just to make the other one happy. That's crazy.