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Originally Posted by The baby Zeesus
I think I would be a great parent but I don't want to have any children because I want to do lots of things on my own that I simply couldn't do if I had parental responsibilities. If you have a child, your life is no longer just about you and I think for many people, especially men, that's not an appealing prospect until you feel like you've done all that you want to do on your own. That's my take anyway. My mum always said to us that we should never truly settle down until we're about 30-33 because being young is all about making mistakes and learning from them, so by the time you hit 30 you've generally got all the stupid out of your system and you're probably going to be a much better person for it. I could never imagine factoring in a child if I want to go out with my friends or whatever, not at this stage.
If two people have different wants on this level then the only thing to do is to amicably break up. One of you shouldn't be unhappy for life just to make the other one happy. That's crazy.
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Yeah thats a great point really. When you have a child, pretty much for the next 18 years you don't have your own life..everything revolves around the child. I mean, you can still go out, but its a right fanny on trying to get childcare and such sorted
Waiting til you are older does make sense, but for women its not really that simple. Put if off til mid thirties, and then if it doesn't happen quite soon, you might not be able to do it fullstop :/