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Originally Posted by Redway
Either. Two examples would be (on someone's side) feeling inadequate and 'not good enough' for a partner because of feeling unattractive and someone (partner's side) with genuine feelings of affection and love but is put off because of thinking the partner's unattractive.
A slightly more extreme case would be if one had BBD so an incredibly distorted view of how they look, so might especially feel they're not in the partner's league or something.
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..ahh, ok..so you mean when you're first attracted to someone and that someone feels in some way not worthy of your affection, type thing..?...
...hmm, yeah, I think that could be a problem in that it would perhaps be very difficult to persuade them of the things that you liked about them/their good qualities or their physically attractive qualities..so that would maybe hinder the relationship from going forward because you would be stuck in that place of trying to persuade them of seeing in themselves what you see in them...I think for me, 'feeling lovely/beautiful' is knowing and believing that your partner believes you are, it's not so much that you are but that you see yourself through their eyes ...and it would be very frustrating to not be able to make someone feel that...lol, does that make any sense..?..