No I think it's good that you used the word selfish Ammi because it is the word that gets thrown around a lot and as the replies have shown it's never that black and white... I don't think there's a word that can adequately describe how suicidal people feel and how their deaths impact on others... probably because suicide isn't spoken about openly, it is quite a taboo subject... people never talk about the reasons why somebody would kill themselves...
A lady who lived round the corner from us committed suicide a few years ago... her son was about 6 years younger than me and was still in primary school when she killed herself; she'd locked the front door so he couldn't get in the house, he walked home from school and was then stuck on the front door step wondering where his mum was... I remember seeing him sitting there and saying hi to him but he didn't ask for help and I didn't think anything of it, and then a few hours later we noticed there was a private ambulance (hearse) parked outside and his dad came and took him away and then we saw the body bag come out... it was very sad. I'm not sure why she killed herself. I know that she was a single mum and she seemed very away with the fairies whenever you saw her but she was really nice... you never really know how somebody's feeling when you see them around, I don't think there's much anyone could do to help someone who's feeling that helpless... to get better you need to want to get help and some people just don't believe in a better tomorrow
