[Sunny_01]

I think the problem is mutual respect or lack of it. I agree that when you post something you are really passionate about its hard when someone challenges that idea, but thats what good debate is about, its about challenging each others perceptions of the world. Its also about trying to understand each other, if someone makes a sweeping statement its nice for them to be able to back it up with a reasonable reason as to why they made it, or is it just me and a few others that think that way.

I know personally when I ask someone why they think certain things I am in no way challenging them as such I am generally asking them to help me understand. An example of this is when Chris explained why he felt that Paris should be treated differently, I have to say after reading his reason I accepted that nor would I like her to be treated badly and if that meant being treated differently then so be it.

Sometimes it is about communication as well, when you are reading something it often seems different to the way a person actually meant it to sound, sometimes words can seem to be written in an agressive manner when that is not the writers intention. I suppose the best way of dealing with things is to re-read what we write in the hope that we dont upset people without realising it.