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Originally Posted by joeysteele
To be fair to Helen and to a great deal many other people too.
In my experience and I am only 22 but I have found that once someone has done anything wrong, been found out and facing whatever consequences may arise, minor or major,that is in fact the only time in the main they cry.
I guess, it comes from the realisation,firstly you have been seen to do so and it is now known and secondly you are being held to account for it in some way too.
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..I think the few times I've seen her cry in the DR when receiving a warning, her tears have been genuine in that she doesn't see what she projects onto others..a bit like a 'red mist' thing and no amount of anyone saying anything will make her see it either during her behaviour or in reflection other than in a situation like BB where it's 'proven' to her in the DR...I think what really bothers me..(and I do sway with feelings about Helen..)..is that when she herself is talking about something afterwards, I have heard her say things like..'oh I was a bitch..' type thing but she doesn't seem to say it with any real reflection of her part in anything but more as a flippant thing that she just seems to brush off and still accepting no responsibility...I think on the whole, most of us don't go around having so many confrontations in life but if ever we do, they would be quite a big thing and maybe things would be said in the 'heat'...but in reflection we would also look back at what our faults had been in a situation....and if we did constantly have confrontations/arguments etc....we would also look at ourselves as to why that was because we couldn't just be unfortunate enough to be constantly surrounded by unpleasant people .....I just haven't ever got that from Helen...any acceptance of any responsibility or self awareness ....