[nodisharmony]

Quotes from Ash:-

Not so loud in the sense that you annoy everyone else though

That is very true! Many times it is easy to just enjoy your own voice and what you have to say, but just trample over the quieter ones. Many who might be fans of a particular celebrity or a passion of some kind. That is where the annoying part comes into play and subsequently, hostilities follow

I used to be fairly quiet, and I suppose shy in some respects, but not until you got to know me! Now I feel I'm getting louder and louder by the day.

That is something which comes from making good friends Ash. I know you are very friendly and I find you okay! But as real friendships build in life, you also build more confidence and in a forum like this, it is much easier to be confident, as you can turn your computer off at any time. You have the control. But also, this applies to real life too and if you are at school and you meet friends, it is easy to get on with them and even become extrovert, when you are mostly introvert to strangers or people you don't feel so confident with.
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Quotes from Legend:-

In school for example, people sit there wanting the teachers attention, hand up etc but because i'm too impatient, i just shout her name as loud as i can and it always seems to work because she hears me and comes straight over. It's a very handy quality to have, a big mouth.

I agree with you Legend. I remember when I used to be at school, that there were other pupils who would shout out and as I was more introverted and actually, "I never liked school either", I just didn't get heard. But when you are loud and have that enormous voice, it does help. But putting school to one side and thinking of a forum, TIBB "as an example", when you shout on here, it is much different. It has to be in an agressive way, put into a sentance instead. "If you were that type of person who likes to be that way generally", then it will be shown in writing too. Unless you have "tact", of course...

As for having opinions etc, i've always got something to say on most things and i always do and some people class that as 'loud' etc but it's not in the slightest IMO, i know some 'loud' people and i'm nothing like that, those people really are 'in your face' and the kind you want to punch whearas i'm not (well the odd one will want to punch me but you know ), i just have opinions on stuff and i'll always give my opinion which some people class as 'loud'

That is great when you have opinions and sometimes your own opinion will clash with an opposite opinion, that is very true. But when someone is loud and turns it into something more agressive, then it can become a problem. "Will it get taken the wrong way?" Luckily on a forum, nobody is going to punch each other. That is why the loud ones can sometimes voice their anger differently. But the quieter ones can also have a go, as they know they are protected by anonimity.
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Quotes from J.C:-

As you rightly say Nodis, It's the appreciation of it that counts.We can all be shy at times for different reasons. If I was with someone who I considered to be shy I would probably talk more but less loud.

That is the main part J.C. "appreciation" & "respect" of course! It is easy to start out stating within a forum what your opinions are about a particular person or passion and when hostility is received by someone who is loud in their way of expression and comes out with something nasty, then what happens, is, next time you bump into them, you remember that and are less kind in return. But this then builds up into something more sinister. Your statement J.C. whereby you state that talking to someone quiet or shy, you would talk less loud or understand them better is very commendable and correct. If someone is shy & nice, but you are generally loud but certainly more tactful generally, then that is great! It means that you can adapt well

In real life I am quite extroverted where as on the net I think I am quite shy because I am less confident or experienced with computers, forums, graphics etc.

I am quite a bit of both really. I can be introverted & extroverted, but it depends who with. If it is someone I don't know, but I like the way they debate or chat or even seem to be. I do want to know them, but there is a barrier of shyness which prevents me. However, if we swing this around a bit and I talk about those I do get on with, sometimes it can be a like/dislike relationship sometimes, but the confidence is won by new familiarities. Creating an extrovert side. I am not a whizz on computers, and definately not graphics!!! No EYE designs from me...
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Quotes from (~~) "mrluvaluva":-

You know what I like about this forum? I get to know more about members every day, And the more I get to know them. The more I like them. And I hope it is the same with everyone else. I have not been here that long. But I have learnt a few things in my time here.

We have all learnt a few things Baz, and that is what is great about meeting people in this way. Being loud or quiet shouldn't matter. It is what you learn over time, rather than viewing one-days over-reactions. Also, I must say that the above quote is a very diplomatic and political correct post. A politician couldn't have put it better.

Some people may think I have a loud voice. I don't really. I just air my views. When I need to. Sometimes, I agree, maybe quieter members do shy away. I would not disrespect any members views, and whenever I see a new members thread, I always welcome them

That is a very safe comment and I would definately agree with how safe it is. I have views on how loud some members can be, but I don't say a name, as I think it is a good choice not to. Airing views is important and whether loudly or quietly, it shouldn't matter. It is just a case of realisation and the fact that quieter ones would like a nice and fun time generally, "with the odd exception NOT" of course. But, passions can run deep and respect for that can certainly stop arguments, whether on a forum or in the real outside world, all very much the same. Welcoming New people is a positive and just like a taxi driver will be nice to a customer, he or she doesn't really know them. But will be polite and tactful anyway, as they may be?

Is this going to be controversial? Again.

No.

Very peaceful discussion and honest feelings.




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