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Originally Posted by LiamPRW
I would definitely consider that he was joking, i'm not one of these people who sees everything as black and white and only sees faults in people, i didn't particularly see it as a joke, but i can see how he might have thought it was a joke etc 
I agree with you, they should be letting him do more for himself, not all 70 year old people are incapable of looking after themselves, my Bampy was 76 when he died and up until the day he became sick, he looked after his house by himself, he did gardening, he looked after his cat, he did his own washing, he shopped, he cleaned.. i know not all old people need help, but unless you know they don't need help, you just assume that they do and help them with stuff, but as you said, he has shown that he's resilient and can do things for himself.. but that just makes me wonder why people still carry on doing things for him, even though he is capable of doing stuff, maybe he just lets them because he's lazy or can't be bothered to clean up? none of us will ever know because we haven't lived in there with him. |
Aw I have never heard that expression Bampy, I bet you loved him dearly. I am 74 my husband is 77 but sadly he has just been diagnosed with cancer. He is on chemo but he is still doing his bit. We are bringing up two grandchildren, one is 17 and the other is 14. We have had them with us for over 11 years. We take great pride in being part of the younger generation, they each treat us with respect and love. My 26 year old eldest grandson came all the way from Leeds, quite a way from myself, to help me when my husband was in hospital.
I just feel so sad that there is so much ageism in the house this time, I genuinely feel sorry for their attitudes and I respect and love Gary for his wealth of knowledge, his understanding of the younger ones and his ability not to "bitch" and to moan about his treatment, he accepts it all as the learning curb which will give him a greater understanding of each of them. No matter what age we are, we learn........your Bampy wont be far from you.
Ya know, I love elephants, they supposedly never forget and our departed ones are never forgotten.