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Originally Posted by the truth
now my advice to a man like that is that if he can find the spirit in himself to climb off the canvas to find work, albeit lesser work and lesser paid, anything is better than benefits.....whilst hes in work he will be meeting people and socializing more....he may refind a zest for life..who knows whilst in work he may find a person or an opportunity better suited to his needs...this surely wont happen at home with the curtains drawn on benefits.....men in this country are far more discriminated against than women, far far far more. there is less support, theres far more economic pressure on men too....men MUST work. if they don't they risk losing everything and having their wives throw them out and losing their home their kids wife and career all at the same time. this is exactly why male suicised are at record highs across the entire western society.....oh and they say men should talk about it...I AM talking about it and I get shouted down as being sexist for doing so. proving men cant win, no wonder so many kill themselves
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The problem is, low paid work, for more than a month or two would ensure a repossession order on the mortgage he can no longer afford. Its a case of being damned if you do and damned if you don't.
You can spend huge amounts of time refining CV's for job applications and going for interviews. My husband used to be a stock broker and that's a real rag to riches kind of job but its a job that is so insecure because of dirty dealings that go on within the industry that you never know if your going to have work the following week. I can think of six times when he was looking for employment but fortunately he'd put enough by to see him through those rough times. The diligence he had put into his employment was equally used to find new employment but he needed lots of time and a huge amount of effort to get their. If he had claimed benefits would they of insisted on some mundane course or made him go for pointless interviews as a road sweeper? If so, then they would of been restraining his potential and delaying his attempts to find the sort of work he needed.
As far as men being more vulnerable than women, there are plenty of exceptions but I do tend to agree with you, especially regarding family units where the woman is a stay at home mum or only works part time. The responsibility on the man to provide the bread and butter can be huge and the guilt he must go through when he loses his job has to be devastating. Yes, in general, married men with children are more vulnerable and must suffer from a huge fear of loss when they find themselves on the unemployment ladder.