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Originally Posted by Ammi
..I do understand that you probably do these thread titles and posts for effect Ellie and to encourage discussions of things/topics that people will have and obviously have split and opposite thoughts about with housemates and that's a good thing/you encourage some great discussions..but this does make me cringe in that Jack may be really unhappy with his weight, it may come from deep insecurities and low self esteem..and I think that people are fortunate if they have never experienced that themselves and have no understanding or tolerance of it...and that's not 'enabling' someone to be over-weight and happy to be so because I know that it can create health issues for them..but I think that before they can address anything about their weight which might also then cause them even lower self esteem and so it goes on and on etc...a circle of them possibly feeling really unhappy with themselves..?..they have to be in a place of confidence within themselves and who they are/self belief to do that and then it could all come together for them that self belief will help them to look at other things that they aren't happy with about themselves and give them the strength to get control and be able to deal with it....at some point Jack will come out of the house and possibly read all of the internet stuff and things that have been said on forums etc and not only cruel/derogatory terms about his weight but also that he's an awful person, fairly boring and not much about his personality either...if people really dislike 'fat' people and find it hard to see beyond that...then imo this really is the worst way to address what is a very real and growing/serious issue in young people atm...let's all just say that they're generally pretty awful all round and fairly much losers or poke fun if they're eating a carrot, yeah that'll work and do the trick, make for less young obesity...I'm not saying it's 'bullying' by you or bullying in general but isn't that what the 'mean girls' used to do at school and isn't that possibly what creates these low self esteems and addictions to things like food/gambing etc to try to make themselves feel better because they already hate who they are..have been 'programmed' to hate who they are because they might not 'fit in' with the running crowd...the people who decide what is 'acceptable' and what is not and who is acceptable and who is not ...
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Good post!
Jack seems like a nice lad and i think that is what he should be judged on.His weight is his problem,Not ours.