[Ammi]

..I do understand what Alex is saying, especially with anorexia/bulimia in that the control isn't there, which is different from people like models for instance and the trend now with some celebrities as well to maintain a 'size 0'...we often see in the media 'anorexia' being used to describe them if their weight loss has been substantial and they look incredibly thin ...and something I personally hate is labels, how people have to fit into a label...for them their weight loss is being controlled if it's being maintained...it may be that, that weight loss brings health issues because it may not be the weight that their bodies are comfortable with so much of the control comes with the 'fight/struggle' to try to maintain it...but is that anorexia as such or just an unhealthy weight for them personally...and obviously if they're substituting or missing meals/balanced meals, then that's not a good thing either...

....anyways, I've only ever personally known one person in my life who had anorexia and why I hate labels also because there is no 'one size fits all'...she basically ad a really loving and close family and circle of friends so there was no traumas or anything like that which had happened to her...she was the girl who had everything, I guess you could say...she was beautiful/intelligent/popular etc...but she didn't see any of those things in herself ..maybe she did try to control with her eating, maybe that's how it started only there was no control there, where there is with some people...so sadly and inevitably, she became anorexic...and as Alex said, although she virtually ate nothing publicly, she binge ate continuously in private and obviously made sure the food didn't stay there afterward...with her, it was something that she could not have overcome on her own because eventually her body rejected all food, so definitely an illness which meant several months in hospital..and many times in hospital also as the mental/emotional part of her illness had to be medicated and maintained as well.../which is different from the control people can feel through their eating...so yeah, just not a one size fits all thing either...