[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

This is what I always think when it comes to people who just can't stop themselves from cheating. Why bother entering a relationship in the first place?

Stay single and you can do and go wherever you please.

Serial cheats ARE serial cheats because they have NO real confidence in themselves and are deeply insecure with an unconscious or subconscious sense of worthlessness.

They NEED the reassurance of being able to seduce other women to feed their poor egos, but BECAUSE they have only superficial confidence, they also NEED a woman permanently in their lives as a fallback, a bolster for the times they fail in their quest to seduce other women.

MATURE men who have no such insecurities and who choose to seduce as many women as they can, remain single.

I do not deny the possibility that the most solid of marriages CAN become endangered because one of the partners falls unexpectedly in love with someone else.

I know my view might cause anger or controversy, but I believe that this CAN happen - it might be rare, but it can and has happened and even if the man is too weak to resist this 'feeling', he should at least be man enough to admit the truth to his partner and move out and on to be fair to the injured party.

I hate 'sharing' and cheating, so I'm afraid I do not subscribe to the OP hypothetical scenario.

I have always had a maxim which I still hold:

'Do Not Worry About Being The First Lover She's Had, Concern Yourself With Being Her Last'.