[lostalex]

Female on male rape is much more rare, and doesn't include the same level of violence or fear that male on female or male on male rape has. The truth is most men are not physically intimidated by women.

The power balance is just different.

I remember when i was in high school i was hanging out with some female friends, drinking, and i started getting a bunch of questions from one girl who kept telling me how cute i was, and was asking if i'd ever sleep with a woman. and i said no, i'm not attracted to women. then she asked "well what if i got you really drunk?" and i responded "well that would be rape" and she got very offended and her friends got offended and they said I was wrong to say that.

The truth is though, let's say that I as a gay man got pass out drunk and then woke up to a girl sucking my dick, or riding me... would i feel like i was raped? By definition i guess it was rape, but i would not really feel that violated. I think i would just be weirded out by it, but i wouldn't really feel that upset or scared. I definitely wouldn't call the police, and i don;'t think it would cause me any mental distress if it happened.

But if a man raped me, i definitely would feel violated and angry and scared. and i would definitely call the police.