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If the DNR order is onpeople with no hope then I am all for it.
I do think it is kinder to ask close family first, or at least advise them.
A doctor at the hospital took me to one side and said in the circumstances it would be pretty futile to try and bring him back if he had a heart attack etc, But the choice was mine, needless to say I agreed with the DNR..dad was dying and had no hope.
His care home was made aware of the order, unfortunately his carer decided she had to help him, just prolonged his life by mnutes and caused him great stress.
It depends on how you are approached I think, my sister-in-law was in bits when she was asked by the care home owner if there was to be a DNR on mother-in-law, just the shock and realisation that your loved one is at the end of their life.

The liverpool pathway however smacked of total disrespect and care for the dying. To withhold fluids and food is barbaric..rather just put them to sleep peacefully if we ever decide to go down that path.