What does "real self" even mean? This sort of stuff is said every BB as if people can't possibly have different sides to them. Him getting angry at times doesn't make the nice guy side of him false, I'm sure you don't go through life demonstrating one emotion the entire time.
As for "snarling at women", what? Not sure why it always has to become a gender thing, and he's had a lot of patience with the woman in question.
And he's clearly not a thug. If the thugs you've encountered in your life are like Jason then I envy you.