[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by sassyfox

You don't have to destroy someone to get them to leave you alone.
You do have to be clear and consistent. Jason has not done that. One minute he tells her it's over, the next he's sitting with her talking about how nice it is to see how she's behaving in the house, saying 'we'll see' about the outside, which is saying that he sees them talking on the outside.

Charlie doesn't WANT to take the hint. But that's all it was for weeks - a hint that he didn't want to be with her, because his words did not communicate that. 10 minutes later Jason would say something else.

Trying to be nice as everyone sees it, prolongs the situation. But he certainly didn't have to be cruel. Just clear AND consistent.

Unless the sad bitch is TOTALLY bereft of intelligence, then I think that poor Jason has communicated to her in as many ways possible - language and body language - that HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH HER.

And let us not forget that he KNOWS her from his - obviously painful - relationship with her, so he KNOWS just how she is likely to react if he was outright nasty to her in his 'refusals to engage' with her.

Is she the type to go slit her wrists in the bathroom?

I've been there. I know.

For me, he has made his feelings more than CLEAR in the nicest, gentlest way that he can. I say 'nicest and gentlest' because 'nice' and 'gentle' is - obviously - what kind of a man he GENUINELY is.