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Originally Posted by rusticgal
I see your point Maru. He can't compete with kindness. Maybe I should give her credit for that. Is that her game?...or is she enjoying the positive attention from him?...because we all know she liked him from the off. I just liked the fact that she really called him out for the selfish prat he is...now she's like his best mate.
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I doubt they're best mates, but she is much older than him, so perhaps she feels she's supposed to be the mother. It could be she sees more of a child and she's expected to be the grown person in the room. At the end of the day, Bear is the only one who understands and knows why he does what what does... I think to some degree, they're becoming more intrigued with him because as much as he keeps up a wall, it ironically exposes some core weaknesses (personality-wise) and perhaps they're empathetic to that. He is human after all.
Personally, I detest Bear, but I don't see the point to hate on him in the house? They can't "beat" him, he is what he is. Though if they diffuse his jabs with kindness across the board, it has less of an impact and may ultimately tame the
Bear...
I have known some people with horrible personality traits who have done and said very horrible things (but have never hurt anyone physically). They ended up being one of the most flawed and emotional people I've ever met. Had a bully years ago who bullied me badly for years and years when I was a preteen and then when we met again, he was in tears to have been out of contact with me (by my choice) and was very apologetic... he did the same charisma thing Bear does, where he tries to disarm by saying it's all just in fun--all just a joke. He knows he hurt a lot of people, but for whatever reason he felt the need to do it to cover it up. He acknowledged it was insecurities. He felt he had to dismantle me in order to get to know me, but there were emotional issues there and definitely some misogyny and judgement that carried over from his home life.
Bear is definitely very intelligent (though he hides behind jokes and antics) so it's not like there can't be common ground between him and the other HM's. They're only human.
To your question, I think Renee
really wants to be liked and though she will stand by her principles, in the very least she doesn't want to walk out of the game feeling like
she feels looking back she was a bad person. She may be able to empathize a bit too well with Bear too, because she does hide behind a mask with all that mobster talk and
I'm tough as nails talk so maybe they both have more in common than what they've shown us on the show. Her mask slipped, but it did get Bear to let go of the firm grip on his, so maybe it worked out in her favor... I don't think she planned her meltdown, that would be a bit
sociopathic. 