[Ammi]

..people don't push to limits because they have boundaries of empathy and how that must feel for someone.../that's emotional maturity which adults have and only small children don't have in the same way and that's Bear, no maturity of thought and of the effect on others...with a child when they do that, do we say...oh, they're just winding you up/get to know them etc ...or do we look at the 'winder-up' and try to get them to see the effects of their behaviour, how they've made others feel through it...how unhappy/miserable etc...whether 'nasty' be meant, 'nasty' is still felt and that's something that Bear totally disregards....