[Vicky.]

I wasn't trying to deny that gender roles/stereotypes and such play a huge part in everyones lives though, the 'gender neutral' stuff was me trying to write out my thoughts as I thought them..which may well have come across really wrong. And basically, I have come to the realization that society, as a whole has actually created 'trans' issues in most cases..which is sad and could be changed. Not immediately granted, but long term, and would be much more useful than writing a 'feminine' man off as a trans woman and then going onto attempting to redefine the word woman to fit this. I have flip flopped so much in views on this subject over the past week or so that I feel slightly like a hypothetical dying carp. And I have realised the reason for this feeling, for the lack of understanding surrounding these issues..is that we aren't allowed to have conversations about it without being written off as phobic, which is really wrong.

I also think that 'people who identify' and 'trans' are entirely different, and I will never fully accept someone who simply thinks they are a woman in their head, as a woman. Where I would accept a trans woman who has transitioned as a woman...this view is thought to be totally unacceptable. I understand that to transition there are dangerous surgeries and such and I don't wish to make people feel they HAVE to go through stuff like this, but I just cannot get over the fact that with the whole 'identify' thing..literally anyone can say they are anything they wish to, either for genuine reasons, or for another agenda (such as blokes on a power trip having an easy 'out' and getting a kick out of eroding womens rights /feminist)