[Sunny_01]

wow all this and I missed it.

Ok for what its worth when this thread was opened it was not made clear that we were debating someone on this forum and their decision, it does make it more personal as we all really care about each other.

Lauren I am aware that you and Ruth have debated this but I have to say in no way, shape or form did either of us say anything that would imply we felt someone was hypocritical. We simply said how we felt about a situation and stated our thoughts. Now not for one minute do I think my view point is the right one, but it is how I feel about the issue. I cant help that my view point is opposed to that of another forum member and their real life situation. I do really care that someone is going through this terrible decision making process.

I think that sometimes we read into things way to much and assume that things are written in a certain way, thats the problem when communicating on a forum, people interpret things in their own way.

I will say that when your post was made Lauren the whole thing appeared to be directed at myself and Ruth, and in fact it was patronising but you acknolwedged that it might come across as that way so no harm no foul.