Back on OT, I don't know how I tell someone is gay... I just see clues sometimes and mull it over in my head... not really their voice or demeanor as much as how they carry themselves around others and treats other of the opposite sex. Though I make it a point not to go prying around in other people's business... I hate when people get into my own so I wouldn't want to get into theirs uninvited. Have enough of my own drama...
If I see a bunch of clues, I don't really care to know who is sleeping with who really, so I guess I wouldn't really be a good judge...
I also know too many people who fit the bill and are obviously straight. Some intellectuals I hang around who are fairly feminine (some are "metro sexual") but they are 100% straight... like listen to N'Sync and Backstreet Boys while weeping over the phone about a long lost love straight
I really hate that we hold men to that awkward stereotype too... like
they can't show emotion or have a high voice, a different way of dressing etc... they have to
'look' and
'act' like men... it's sexist.