[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Maru

Yeah I think at best it's a 'clue' to consider... there's no exact science to it.

My husband's brother's voice 'changed' after coming out... so I think to some degree, it's to fit into the stereotype/box or play the role or whatever... I've heard some gay men say that that annoys them.

I'm white and yet I grew up around hispanics so I have a Houston accent with a bit of latina mixed in at times... so I've been told. But then there are hispanics who are just as white as me (maybe moreso)... that have more of a Spanish heritage, whereas many Mexicans have more of the native American blood mixed in so they look browner... you really can't judge a book by it's cover.

I was told I was a lesbian often growing up because I had the knowledge that I have, for wearing athletic clothes, being a tom boy, fixing computers, etc... I didn't pay it any mind. I laugh my way to the bank because those things that made me 'different' are major assets to standing out in a highly competitive field. Fitting in a serious handicap in life so I've learned through life experience. So... jokes on them, because I didn't give into stereotypes... now the roles have reversed... it's cool to be you, to buck the trend so to speak, cool to be nerdy, say **** you to gender stereotypes... etc

Oh and I can't tell if a woman is a lesbian or not... I usually find out through a conversation. Anywhere from "why are guys so dumb?" type conversations ...or "Have you tried running this on your computer? It's pretty cool..." or... "By the way, you're hot!"... etc

One of my friends in HS that didn't really judge me was a friend who came out to me as a 'lesbian'... he was confused then, but later found out he was transgender. I figured he was just like any other person before then... just really sporty. I knew a girl then too that played basketball like no tomorrow... Anyway, she was treated similar to myself for being sporty. She had a child out of wedlock some years back, but she is so happy now and her family really supports her. Her father was a substitute teacher and we used to talk nerd crap. I pretty much talk to anyone who will listen...

This is your most humorous post yet Maru - I literally nearly peed myself at the emboldened bits.

Lots of truth there though as usual.