[jennyjuniper]

This is so wrong. I had a male friend who this happened to. They had three children, she didn't work, so the pressure was all on him to provide for the family and he just didn't see how they could afford another child. She got pregnant anyway by stopping contraception without telling him and so he went and had a vascectomy without telling her!! That fourth child, incidentally is just as much loved as the other three, but it's really about being honest with each other.
If women want an equal marriage, then any major decisions must be made 50/50.