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Old 14-07-2017, 02:35 PM #14
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Originally Posted by Robodog View Post
It's just old fashioned chivalry/gentlemanly conduct etc.

Some women like it, some don't.

It's done out of respect for women, but some people choose to see it as sexist or unequal. The kind of men who pay for dates etc are usually the more respectful kind of men who want to demonstrate care and consideration to women, which is a good thing.

It's a debatable point for sure. Some people can see it as a compliment and a sign of a caring gentleman, others choose to see it as a sexist act which is being a bit harsh and ungrateful in the face of kindness IMO.
Well I'd agree with "old fashioned". Why is it necessary if people supposedly want true gender equality?

Thankfully it's not a double standard I'll have to deal with since I'm gay but if I wasn't, I'd have an issue with automatically being expected to foot the whole bill just because I'm a guy and it doesn't make me any less respectful of women than those who are perfectly happy to pay the whole thing (I also don't really see it as a true barometer of how respectful of women a man is). I think it's perfectly fine for people who want to do it, I just don't agree with this silly social expectation and the judgement on people who don't think it's necessary.

I absolutely see myself as a gentleman because I treat anyone I meet with respect, but I don't think I need to add an extra level of effort for women in particular.

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