[Ruth]

Retroman - you may say I have used 'classic defence lines' in my post. However, what I have written is true. Call it classic defence lines if you will, but classic lines can also be true statements.

Logically, if someone dies, and I have never even heard of that person, and never even hear of their death - how can I grieve for them? Is it not hypocritical to grieve for someone I have never heard of? I have heard about the 9/11 victims, so can feel sadness for them. But if someone dies and I never get to hear about it, I can't grieve for them. I don't expect people to grieve for me when I am dead if they have had no knowledge of my life or my death.

And you say that we should not choose who to grieve for and whose loss to mourn - yet that is exactly what you are doing yourself!

But you say that you won't show respect for a funeral procession because, for all you know, that dead person might have been a nasty person. That's true. But in mourning for other people you don't know, you may also be mourning for other bad people.

As for relying on the media to tell me how long I should mourn for, or feel sadness for - I rarely rely on the media for anything. They are unscrupulous and untrustworthy.

Now - if you really want details of my life and how I mourn people - and what I do to try and help those who are still living in miserable circumstances - you can have them with pleasure. But I would simply ask you not to make assumptions about me, seeing as you don't know me from Adam.

To be honest, you have contradicted yourself a number of times, and your points seem to be very confused.