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Originally Posted by Vicky.
Why should I have to turn to the nearest big bloke for help on a train though? And I am sorry if this sounds paranoid, but how am I to know that this bloke I ask for help isn't also a sleazy pervert? Like this woman
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk...-a7905671.html
I don't think alcohol minimizes any of the behavior either. Its the attitude, that this is perfectly fine to do, more than the actual actions. If it wasn't widely accepted that its fine to grope women in clubs, or make vulgar comments to female strangers, then it would not happen anywhere near as often, drink or no drink.
What my husband does in this situation (he is a big bloke) is he will cross the street so hes not directly behind her, or go a different way.
I know this should not be necessary, but in todays world where a lot of women are on high alert when alone (especially after dark) I do think its a fairly decent gesture.
I would never suggest that all blokes do this though. But I don't know the answer to it either. Women will not stop being scared of men until the violence against them by men stops :S |
You should never have to feel the need to look for help on a train, but you did unfortunatly. The sad fact is when it happened it seems you felt you couldnt ask a man fir assistance! I think you would be surprised if you asked. Or u would like to think you would...why did you feel you couldnt if thats the case?
I think most people would be horrified if they could watch live video of themselves drunk when sober. I also think nowadays most people frown upon that behaviour on a night out.
Funny thing with the scaring women, its always older women who sit next to me on buses and trains, good judges right there. So i will keep walking, breathing heavily as i pass.
I just pop into the pub til its quieter, tell the big fella he can do that.