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Originally Posted by jaxie
I find this very disappointing from someone I had thought was a nice man. Wasn't it Hoffman who helped Elaine Paige get her big break? One wonders about that rags to riches story now and if there was more to it.
As a woman I can honestly say I don't feel I've ever been in a situation where I felt I couldn't handle an approach from a man or that it was grossly inappropriate. I did have someone try to spike my drink once because I don't drink and I told him he wasted his money because I tasted it immediately and never accepted a drink from him again. And that was that. Should that guy be arrested or fired for it, of course not, I dealt with it. Only once when I was a teenager did I find myself in a situation that did frighten me and it wasn't sexual. On that occasion I worked on an office run by two men and when I arrived one of them asked me to make him a coffee which I did. Now this guy had a secretary who was besotted with him and they were supposedly having a fling, both married to others. I was in the kitchen when she came in and said something about making his morning coffee. So I said oh it's ok I made him one already. She leaves. Next thing the other boss comes in to the room where I'm now alone and closes the door then leans against it. He informs me she complained I was rude to her (I only said the man had had his coffee) and to apologise. I said I didn't have anything to apologise for feeling quite shocked by the accusation. Then he says apologise or get out. I said I'd get out then and tried to open the door which he held closed with his body. I don't like being shut it and I started to panic. The rest was a bit of a blur but involved me trying to force the door open and his body weight holding it and then me becoming hysterical and screaming and crying and finding super strength to push him over. I ran through the office screaming and crying, told everyone what had happened, left and never came back. I didn't report it to the police as I was very young and didn't think it was a crime they would charge him with, he didn't touch me and it was me who pushed him off balance to get out. Had he touched me I am pretty sure I would have reported it and it surprises me, with my own hysterics in that situation why people are silent about these situations when they happen but looking back now I wonder should I have reported mine and why I didn't.
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Even if you dealt with it, I think arresting him would have been fine too tbh. You are so lucky you noticed.
I was lucky in that the last time I was spiked, Gavin was with me. First time my friends took care of me as they knew I could drink a LOT so being in that state after a couple was unusual
**** knows what would have happened otherwise :S
Low level sexual assaults happen so often you don't even realise its happened, or think its a 'problem' as such. Stuff like pervs shoving erections into your back while standing behind you on trains/buses. Or people 'accidentally' touching you up in public...pubs being especially rife for this. Men and women are victims of it so often, and don't even realise that they have been sexually assaulted as...its just so 'normal' and accepted.
Not sure if behaviour and entitlement is actually getting worse, or if people just talk about it more these days.
There will be so many more of these stories to come. The floodgates have well and truly opened. And about time too.