[DemolitionRed]

Everything needs to be geared around promoting independence. Yes, its lovely for families to step in or to even go and live with their adult children but many elderly people don't want that, regardless of how well they get along with their children, because its giving up their independence.

After my grandma died, my grandfather went to live with my parents. They had enough room to set up an on-suite bedroom and a small living room for him. What they did though, was take him away from his familiar surroundings. The very surroundings where he'd lived, loved and laughed with his life partner. He never complained and he was grateful but he only lived for one more year and that year was filled with a sense of loss and sadness. No matter how good family are with an elderly parent, taking away their 'sense' of independance isn't always in their favor.