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Originally Posted by Vicky.
Your sexuality is your own business, but personally if I was shagging a pre-op transman I would consider myself bi as the transman is female. Post op...not sure, but its not the same as a man as its all surgically constructed (also SRS for transmen is nowhere near as avanced as SRS for transwomen) but fairly sure I would still see them as female, just with...male features or something.
I think I have mentioned my extended family member before but there is a similar situation going on pretty close to me at the moment. A family member is dating a transwoman, the transwoman wants srs but my family member says she is not a lesbian and wants a cock to shag, basically. So she considers herself in a straight relationship.
Its all a bit..confusing really.But however someone looks at it, sex is a valid reason to turn someone down. Sexuality is not something anyone needs to 'get over' or be considered transphobic tbh..that does imply sexuality is a choice.
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Yeah I think I remember you mentioning that before. Similarly I used to work with a woman who was married to a man who fully transitioned to female (he was a crossdresser at first and later came out as transsexual) and she stayed with him throughout. She said that she considered him female but in terms of her sexuality still considered herself to be straight. Like most of these conversations though the deeper you get the more you sort of see all these labels as being pretty redundant when talking about such complex and unique situations I think.
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Originally Posted by Monkey Slut
I think it comes down to other people's perceptions, honestly.
I don't it's the same either.
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I think it seems to come down to whether or not you see the trans person as the gender that they've transitioned to (and possibly added to that how it might affect your views of your own sexuality). I'm going to do a poll I've decided and match it to the 'do you consider transmen to be men' poll and do some scientific analysis
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Originally Posted by Brillopad
Sorry Jamie, no disrespect intended, but if I dated a man only to discover he had once been a woman I would struggle with that and believe I would not be able to get past it. It would be too uncomfortable for me. I think it would be a big deal for many people.
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That would be your right Brillo. It's the 'why' that I find interesting because I wasn't really sure what the problem would be if it was only their trans status that was the issue.