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Originally Posted by Ammi
....I guess she could be being deliberately antagonistic but I don’t get the feeling that she is and I don’t think she’s particularly fragile either as such...I don’t know, I just feel that a lot of her defensiveness and hostility has been heightened when she’s talked about her perceived attractiveness to men...like with Ginuwine for instance, Ginuwine wouldn’t find her physically attractive which she found hard to accept and she’s also said how she hasn’t had sex since her surgery...she also to me looked quite wistful when Courtney was performing and receiving much male appreciation...I get the feeling that to her, a male finding her attractive is a huge part of her ‘feeling complete’ as a woman....but I think the thing is, is because that hasn’t happened for her yet, she’s assuming and convinced of phobia rather than she’s just not met the right person...she attacks, oh you’re phobic and can’t accept it’s anything other than that...?...
....I’m trying to think of something similar which could be maybe a woman in her 50s maybe having gone through a divorce where she may have felt ‘rejected’ and ‘unattractive’ ...only because I know of some women who that has happened to ..and when someone has come into their lives and yes they’ve had sex ooops...  ...it’s been a transformation in how they’ve felt about themselves...that kind of ‘validation’ they seemed to have needed to feel they’re still desirable...?...hmmm, I kind of wonder if it’s similar in any way to how India feels...obviously I could be completely wrong but I’m just thinking that what she seems to have ‘pushed’ at a few times or been focused on is, she doesn’t feel attractive to men/how hard it is for her as a transsexual....if feeling as though she’s physically attractive to a man is something she’s desperately needs, if that was the case ...?...it’s her getting to a place of not assuming phobia and because she’s a transsexual as an automatic defence..because like with Ginuwine, she’s not being rejected as such as she seems to feel but more, that she doesn’t fit with what that person personally finds physically with someone..../...I mean we all know that happens to people ‘born in their right bodies’ as well...but she’s not seeing that way and thinking more of ‘only transsexuals can be not found attractive’ and how hard it is etc....and for everyone else it’s all fine and dandy when that’s not the case at all....
....or the short version is.. ... she has to try to not see herself as the constant victim and realise that we’re all victims.../life is difficult for most people much of the time, there are just different types of difficult.... |
Literally just watched a video on this exact topic. Tempted to post it in SD... we're all victims, oppressed in one respect or another. Many of us are born towards the bottom of the pile economically for example. The difference is in not only how we handle and whether we improve ourselves/those things, but also in not *****ing it up and making it a lot worse...