[Ammi]

..I think what I'm trying to say..(..badly..)..is that we wouldn't put labels on our children..like you're the smart one, you're the dumb one, you're the this one, you're the that one..some positive, some negative etc..labels are just not conducive in the context of discussions and communication...although they're an 'entitlement' all of us can use, they will hinder any moving forward that was hoped for...