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Originally Posted by Vicky.
Women speaking out are still in the wrong though. Either they are blamed, accused of lying, or they were in the wrong for waiting so long to speak up. Or its minimized, made out to be over the top (see. the many people who start with the 'you cannot even say hello without being accused of sexual harassment' type people) or just them being humourless and not getting 'banter'..even if said 'banter' was actually clear sexual harrassment and/or assault. They are doing it for compensation/attention/to be spiteful and ruin an innocent blokes life. Etc
OR all of the above. Then in court they are cross examined for days, treat as if its them who has committed a crime, their entire sexual history is brought up to try and discredit them becuse everyone knows that unless a woman is a virgin she cannot be raped and if she ever consented to sex with one man, this means she consents to all sex with all men. The fact that she was wearing a skirt, or had drank alcohol is used against her. There are more...but I could literally go on for hours and hours so I will end on the final most shocking one..finally, excuses such as 'I acidentally fell over onto a sleeping woman, naked, with an erecton and landed penis first in her vagina' are actually used and accepted in court as a defense.
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But they aren't, all organisations have HR, there are sessions on equality and diversity s well as safeguarding.
I work as a security guard 90% of my colleagues are men, 90% of the truck drivers who come through the gatehouse are men... And I have had an issue that warranted intervention once in 2yrs, and it was dealt with swiftly, I was kept informed throughout and felt very supported.
There are still people who say those things like 'you can't say anything' or blame 'banter' but luckily this really does seem to be changing... slowly.
Conversely I agree with you about the courts, where there does seem to be a very regressive vibe, which is really worrying.
The use of sexual history in rape cases and the very different way that high profile offenders are treated are prime examples.
I would go as far as to say the differentials are classist.