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Originally Posted by Vicky.
I would say you were 'lucky'. Obviously not that the situation needed intervention, but that you were taken seriously.
And I didn't necessarily mean at work (though have had my fair share of sexual assaults being minimized at work..had one boss trying to persuade me not to make a complaint as the guy could lose his job and that was 'too much' when all he did was grope me for a few seconds. No, I did not work for Brock Turners dad) but just..in general. No matter what a woman does (when the victim of sexual assault or rape), she is in the wrong. Especially, if there are enough complaints about the same person for it to make the press, or the story is 'interesting' enough for it to make the press. The victim blaming, the 'shes just being vindictive' the 'she is overreacting', 'she asked him out and he said no so this is revenge' and such come in force then.
Meanwhile, when a guy is raped and it hits the press, you see none of that. There is no speculation about if he was showing too much skin, no insinuations that he is to blame in some way, no disbelief by default. There shouldn't be either, incase someone reads this wrong. I am definitely not wanting male victims to be assumed to be lying. I am just pointing out the difference in treatment between the sexes in cases like this.
If he is sexually asaulted by a woman though..and especially if she was young and attractive, you do get some idiots (almost exclusively guys) saying he is actually lucky. That they would love to be assaulted by her, and such 
Obviously maybe not every single case ever in the history of press has been like that^ Before someone goes and finds one comment of how a guy brought on his own rape, or something. But this is overwhelmingly the general tone, including in the 'justice system' rather than just the press/public opinion |
Maybe but in the workplace now there isn't the scope for sweeping things away that there was, unless the firm is small and there is no specific HR or company guidelines. Then it very much is that you are at the mercy of your boss and his personal ethics
But yeah girls in schools even have infomercials to show them that it is ok to say no, this may be the effects of watching porn?.. That's one theory :/
I would be interested to see if history is brought up in cases of male rape, and if it is a contributory factor in assessing the possibility of the complainants consent during the act.