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View Poll Results: Are you one of those people who like surprise-guests? | ||||||
No - you should send message to me that you’re coming, now. Let me clean and prepare for you | 9 | 64.29% | ||||
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Depends who you are (e.g., yes to close friends/family but not if we barely know/like each-other) | 2 | 14.29% | ||||
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Depends more on me and my mood than anything-else, not necessarily for preparation’s sake. | 1 | 7.14% | ||||
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I operate with a door-wide-open policy. Come and join me at my place whenever you want. | 2 | 14.29% | ||||
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15-12-2022, 08:36 AM | #26 | |||
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And that place had dried mashed potato stuck to the ceiling. Last edited by Soldier Boy; 15-12-2022 at 08:37 AM. |
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15-12-2022, 09:23 AM | #27 | |||
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My door is always open to friends and family.
They take me as they find me. I love company. |
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17-12-2022, 03:07 AM | #28 | |||
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Bloody hell.
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17-12-2022, 03:13 AM | #29 | |||
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Like I said if it’s truly a surprise-visit then it shouldn’t really matter to them how they find the house/flat in any case (so long as it’s not too bad). But people who aren’t necessarily trying to surprise you but just drop by randomly without even being in the area or thinking to leave ordinary messages are annoying. If one was to be really antisocial you’d just shut the door on them and try not to feel too awkward about it.
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01-01-2023, 07:49 PM | #30 | |||
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I see. I guess when you’re not very social anyway and fond of your own space having people you haven’t specially planned for turning up even with notice can be annoying.
When you’re living with other people/flatmates who you don’t really know or like enough to want to get to know them better people (from students to grown professionals/people otherwise in house-shares) tend to just stay in their rooms when they haven’t got somewhere to be (going back to Soldier Boy’s point), not because it doesn’t feel a little too cagey in there sometimes but because when you give your daily hustle and bustle a bit more of a social touch these annoying near-strangers will always bother you and ask too many questions. It’s not so much the contentment with being a total recluse (people generally cultivate social circles with people they actually know well outside those walls if they’re not trying to get to know the people they happen to live with better or just have boundaries when it comes to personal space) as it is just wanting those space-boundaries to be respected. A lot of extraverts find it hard to do/understand that and think they’re entitled to be your friend just because you live together. Age can help but it doesn’t always and that sense of let-me-in-nice-stranger-I-just-happen-to-share-a-living-space-with definitely carries on at times well into one’s 30s.
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01-01-2023, 08:02 PM | #31 | |||
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No surprise visitors.
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01-01-2023, 08:07 PM | #32 | |||
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I like people coming through on Christmas Eve/Day but on days like today (New Year’s) the person really needs the heads-up if they don’t operate on an open-door policy. They might just want to spend the day planning for the year ahead/contemplating, taking down the decorations and you just turning up for hours and hours when you don’t normally come on New Year’s Day/around that period will no-doubt get in the way. All it takes is a text a day in advance during this time of year unless it’s a default arrangement (which is absolutely fine and I even enjoy).
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01-01-2023, 09:44 PM | #33 | |||
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The issue of people staying for more than four hours at a time when it’s not Christmas/New Year’s/you’re not super-close is another issue altogether.
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23-04-2024, 10:36 PM | #34 | |||
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