[the truth]

Its easy to say without living the experience yourself

How would you cope if you knew your child was to be born with cerebral palsey, polio, a weak heart, a deformity, a clubbed foot, a tumor? It takes some thinking about

How would you cope with such news and do you think you would be able to keep this child and love it for the rest of its life, or would the pressure be too much to handle?

[Mystic Mock]

I think some of the more extreme disablities would be hard for me to cope with, but I would try my best to care for the child for as long as I could.

[Marcus.]

i would still the same and take care of my child

[LemonJam]

Initially disappointed - I don't think anybody can deny that they want a "normal" healthy child. However, I'd do what I can to make them as happy and successful as they could be without disability

[the truth]

having worked with people with learning disabilities. it is beyond comprehension, the character, humour, bravery and endless other magnificent characteristics and bravery these people show. it was my favourite job, very challenging, very difficult, but totally rewarding.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

Initially disappointed - I don't think anybody can deny that they want a "normal" healthy child. However, I'd do what I can to make them as happy and successful as they could be without disability

This.

[Mrluvaluva]

It would be a tough decision to make, as I am sure it is for many who have to face such a decision. It would be extremely hard work for life most probably. Many babies born with disabilities can live a happy and fulfilled life. I admire anyone who goes ahead with such a decision. Either option is extremely difficult to take. It's not something I could say yes or no to hypothetically. It would depend on all factors and circumstances, but if the child could live a somewhat normal and happy life then I would definitely give them the chance in life and care for them to the best of my ability.

[joeysteele]

It wouldn't matter to me at all, I would love,support and do all I could for them.

I hahve a friend who is badly disabled, he is likely the best person in my life outside my family, I have learned so much from him,( and others who are severely disabled), and been so impressed with the way he copes with things and remains even more cheerful than many able bodied people.

I find the example set by disabled people is amazing and nothing to be ashamed of or afraid of.

[Mystic Mock]

What disablity has he got though Joey? im not having a go or anything but im just interested because I could imagine something like Down Syndrome for example wouldn't be a nice thing to have to cope with or look after.

[GypsyGoth]

I don't know, I don't plan to have kids, but if something like this happened. I don't think I'd do well on my own, I can be pretty selfish sometimes, and I'm not sure I'd be prepared to give up my life for a child whether they were disabled or not.

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by The Mockinator

What disablity has he got though Joey? im not having a go or anything but im just interested because I could imagine something like Down Syndrome for example wouldn't be a nice thing to have to cope with or look after.

He suffered some brain damage when he was born Mockinator, then after a family car accident his neck was broken and he is now permanently paralysed from the waist down.
He is one of the most inspiring people in my life for all he has had to come through and still by the way he communicates, he tries to be cheerful.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by joeysteele

He suffered some brain damage when he was born Mockinator, then after a family car accident his neck was broken and he is now permanently paralysed from the waist down.
He is one of the most inspiring people in my life for all he has had to come through and still by the way he communicates, he tries to be cheerful.

Wow he does deserve alot of respect, a good friend you've got there I think Joey.

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by GypsyGoth

I don't know, I don't plan to have kids, but if something like this happened. I don't think I'd do well on my own, I can be pretty selfish sometimes, and I'm not sure I'd be prepared to give up my life for a child whether they were disabled or not.

I don't think that's selfish.

If you're not ready, it's sensible

[joeysteele]

Originally Posted by The Mockinator

Wow he does deserve alot of respect, a good friend you've got there I think Joey.

I have indeed Mockinator, one of the very best anyone could have.

[the truth]

Originally Posted by GypsyGoth

I don't know, I don't plan to have kids, but if something like this happened. I don't think I'd do well on my own, I can be pretty selfish sometimes, and I'm not sure I'd be prepared to give up my life for a child whether they were disabled or not.

fair enough. however I dont think the term giving up your life always applies. its an over used statement imo. obviously various disablities and health issues vary enormously. however, its amazing how much you get back from children, especiall those with some form of diability. they will inspire you and help you in more ways than you can possibly imagine. instead of a chore or a hardship, it can even become a joy. adults think theyre teaching kids, often it ends up the other way around. they usually end up teaching us the joys of optimism, enthusiasm and just enjoying the simpler things in life.

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I don't think that's selfish.

If you're not ready, it's sensible

Not selfish but possibly shellfish.