[Sod_James]

I was bullied from any early age and it continued throughout my school life. I think that bullying has had a massive impact on my life and believe that its our childhood that shapes our adult life.

If often frustrated me that teachers done nothing about it even after reported complaints and usually the bullies often got praise for having the one day where they 'Behaved' themselves.

What should be done about bullying? Does bullying have an impact on our later lives?

[Ann]

now when i first went to my school i did get a bit bullied until one day i thought to myself this is enough so i started toughing up to them and gave them what they gave me now as you asked does it carry on after you finnished school now how you had it yes it can follow on when your finnished school but the best way out is talk to your dr or talk with a counceller they will sort it out believe me mate hope you get it sorted and i do feel for you younger members at school who go through this hell bless you

[Sod_James]

Yeh i would go see my doctor but i cant understand a word he sais lol. Go see him for ear infection he ends up giving you eye drops.

[Ann]

well its best to see a counceller and tell him your problem then they can ease your mind when i went to see one years ago of course it really eased my mind now ive really toughened up to people and so will you too

[Sod_James]

How do i get to see a counciller. do i have to go see my doctor first? i dunno weva i suffer from any 'illness' i mean being bullied has allways affected me. im not generally a happy person and i often feel down but i just allways put it down to just the way i am.

[Ann]

ive just been told by my mate its best if you go and see your dr and ask him if you can see a counceller because if it does still affect you then it is best to get help with it mate

[Captain.Remy]

I've been bullied because I was a fat boy when I was 8 y-o to 11 y-o. But I lost 45 kilos and now that's why I am what I am, popular, leader of everything I do , with a fit body and charismatic. I know what I am, and being bullied helped me in the way that I love my actual life, I have a girlfriend I hugely love, I'm good at school, I'm the President of plenty of organisations and stuff.
The bullies are now just jealous that I'm like that because they are miserable, I don't hate them for what they did but I have pity, they don't deserve that I look at them.

So yes, being bullied has an important impact in your social life.

[Ann]

aww thats cool to hear that sunshine30 good on you mate

[Harry!]

iv been picked on from yr 2

[Jeremy]

I was bullied growing up for being gay...I have been called every name you can think of...I think that you can rise above the bullying as I have though.

It really was a difficult time for me when I look back I believe it has made me stronger and more independent and while it should NEVER have happened it is what it is...kids are cruel - extremely cruel sometimes and unfortunately if legislation isn't harder in your own country then there is nothing that can truly be done about it because teachers allow it to happen or the schools/parents do not have harsher punishments.

When in school, you can relate a child who bullies another child back to their family and how they are raised.

I'm sorry for any of you who have ever been bullied in your life but one day you will be stronger and more amazing then you ever though imaginable!

On a side note - even though I was bullied, I was class president all the way through school...weird huh?

[Harry!]

Originally posted by Jeremy
I was bullied growing up for being gay...I have been called every name you can think of...I think that you can rise above the bullying as I have though.

It really was a difficult time for me when I look back I believe it has made me stronger and more independent and while it should NEVER have happened it is what it is...kids are cruel - extremely cruel sometimes and unfortunately if legislation isn't harder in your own country then there is nothing that can truly be done about it because teachers allow it to happen or the schools/parents do not have harsher punishments.

When in school, you can relate a child who bullies another child back to their family and how they are raised.

I'm sorry for any of you who have ever been bullied in your life but one day you will be stronger and more amazing then you ever though imaginable!

On a side note - even though I was bullied, I was class president all the way through school...weird huh?

they just pick on the different ones like me!

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Jeremy

I'm sorry for any of you who have ever been bullied in your life but one day you will be stronger and more amazing then you ever though imaginable!

On a side note - even though I was bullied, I was class president all the way through school...weird huh?

That's what happened with me, I'm stronger and more amazing than I thought I would be, I'm glad today to have a better life than them.
They are jealous that I'm powerful, they can't accept that at all, I'm 17, they are 17 and they are immature, they did think they were better but they aren't.
I don't talk to them, it's better like that, I don't mind them anymore.

[Jeremy]

Originally posted by postandpollmad

they just pick on the different ones like me!

P&P...I'm sorry they pick on you. You need to tell everyone in authority that you can - administration, teachers, parents, etc. Do what you can to tell people about the situations. Ask your parents if you can talk to someone medically.

In time...you will grow above and beyond their pettiness..

[Harry!]

Originally posted by Jeremy

P&P...I'm sorry they pick on you. You need to tell everyone in authority that you can - administration, teachers, parents, etc. Do what you can to tell people about the situations. Ask your parents if you can talk to someone medically.

In time...you will grow above and beyond their pettiness..

ok

[Ann]

this bulling is a sick thing and it needs sorting out badly

[Captain.Remy]

Sometimes you can't resolve bullying by telling everyone you are bullied because you will be more criticised and it will be harder. I said sometimes, not at all the time.
Fortunatly for me I lost weight in 3 year and fortunatly I entered into the college.

[bananarama]

Originally posted by Sod_James
How do i get to see a counciller. do i have to go see my doctor first? i dunno weva i suffer from any 'illness' i mean being bullied has allways affected me. Im not generally a happy person and i often feel down but i just allways put it down to just the way i am.

Long term bullying it seems may have knocked your self confidence about. If you think you are regularly depressed then go see a Dr that you can understand (Change doctors if need be). Tell him/her why you think you are feeling down a lot of the time and request councelling if you feel the need.

I would say a young person should not be regularly unhappy exept for the usual stress that one experiences during the early maturing years....

[spacebandit]

This may not be the most popular solution, and I can't say I recommend it in all cases.

When i was a kid I was always told that bullies are cowards - and they are
and that if you stand up to them they leave you alone.

I was bullied at ages 10 and 11, my father - Parachute Regiment, so you can probably understand the mindset at play, eventually put his foot down and said I should fight back. he considered running to teacher to be "namby pamby" - but would back me to the hilt if I ended up in any kind to trouble for fighting back

Either I'd win and it would be over and then I wouldn't be bullied again, or I'd lose, take a bit of a beating but it would show I had the guts to stand my ground and where one leads others follow.

Like I said earlier I can't really recommend it, I was one of those quiet kids at that age, doesn't say boo to a goose, you probably have all known someone like that - my dad had also been taking me to karate since I was eight and was quite capable of looking after myself - none of my friends knew about that.

Long story slightly shorter I fought back and wasn't bullied again. Ever, neither were my friends, and I don;t want it to sound like anything more than it was but bullying was stopped at that school. During the fight, teachers broke it up while I was particularly unsportmanslike, but my father did exactly what he said he would and stodd by me totally, and wouldn't let me be punished for it - namely the 3 strokes of the cane that was standard punishment for fighting.

Of course this was back in the day when a beat policeman would clip you round the ear and send you on your way, yes they still did that back in the 70's - PC meant nothing.

Not everyone can fight back - but kids being bullied should be encouraged to report it - it takes courage to do that just like it takes courage to fight back.

theres no shame if you are bullied, and those kids that are need to be assured that they can do something about it - tell their folks, report it.



I absolutely hate bullies with a passion.

[sarahtheangel]

i do think that schools should punish the bullies more , they seem to ban them from school for a day and then thats it all forgotten . my sister was bullied my mum got hold of them and said back off or i will pay bigger kids to bully you , it did stop but that was years ago . some times the teachers side with the bullies if they are good at representing the school for sports. or just wont admit there is a bullying situation in there school . counciling would be good for you and your doctor can recomend one . good luck and hope things improve for you .

[Bells]

Sadly bullying does exist, more so at school than in the workplace perhaps, but there are elements pretty much everywhere if you look hard enough. It’d be hard to say exactly what to do about it since it’s on such a large scale. If you’re a victim, the most obvious thing though would be to tell someone you feel close to, if at all possible, when you’re feeling upset – or even writing it down to let out your feelings…as hopefully that will make you feel better and stronger in order to deal with the situation.

Even if you bullied yourself and are ashamed and wish to confide in someone, by all means do that as well; it’s commendable on your part as it’s showing you want to start afresh. At a young age, being in an unhealthy situation; whether a bully or a victim of bullying, certainly shapes your personality and your future, I think. You as a result probably deal with situations in certain ways and upon leaving home may well become more aware of it.

Fortunately I’ve never been bullied at school, but you do become aware of the odd little snide comment, or people laughing at some inside joke – perhaps at your expense. I think it’s mean and really annoying to be honest, but especially when you’re younger things like that can make you feel really insecure.

It tends to happen to quite a lot of people and this is the only form of mild bullying I’m vaguely familiar with. And I’ve always believed that you should ignore such petty things. Whether the people doing it think it’s a big deal or not, if it makes the other person/people feel upset or angry, it’s bullying – simple as. Luckily since I just ignore it I tend to overlook most things, as I think it’s pathetic behaviour.

[Sod_James]

Well bullying is what made me so inaterested in Big Brother. cos when it started it was like a social experiment. I thought to myself that BB would be a great way to help me get my confidence back and thats why im auditioning this year cos if i get in the bb house i reackon it will help me with my confidence. Thats if ppl like me that is, if they hate me then it wil probably shatter me lol.

[Kate..]

i'm really lucky because i have never been bullied but i see it happening all the time and i try to do all i can about it.
Fortunately people respect me and normally back off if i stick up for someone.
Bullying is a horrible thing and everyone can be involved in a positive way

[Billy]

Bullys are just insecure, and cant think of anything better to do. I get bullied (especially in PE), but I dont mind them, it makes me laugh to think that they are sad enough to try and makes someones life a misery, just cso there not content with there own sad lives!!

[XxShortyxX]

I have never been bullied in my life. I was popular through out my time at School. I have seen bullying and it was so nasty, I actually smacked a girl in the month once for bullying this smaller girl, she was so nasty to her, And after that the girl stopped bullying her lol. I hate bullies, can't stand them.

[Conzors]

Originally posted by Billy
Bullys are just insecure, and cant think of anything better to do. I get bullied (especially in PE), but I dont mind them, it makes me laugh to think that they are sad enough to try and makes someones life a misery, just cso there not content with there own sad lives!!

i acctually agre... i get bullied, i dont know why, i dont havre anything to be jealous of.. i dont know lol..

but i think bullies are mean.. i mean why make some-one elses life a misery when you can liv yours.