[Sod_James]

in a soceity of perfect skin and a slender body i was wondering how many people on here judge people of how they look

Do looks count for you or do you go on personality?

[Tom]

I think looks do count to quite a large extent and it creeps into everyday lives without realising. Most people have a kid at school who is a tramp and smells worse than the sewers? People avoid those type of people like theres no tomorrow.

[Mrluvaluva]

If we are talking about relationships, then I suppose there are different situations. You may be out in a bar/club and see someone and think "Oooh. They're a bit of allright". So looks are what first attracts you to them. You may chat to them and enjoy their personality, which can make the attraction stronger. However, they might be really boring, unfunny etc. This can lessen the initial attraction and change your feelings.

You can also meet someone who you don't find attractive at all, but once you get to know them, their personality can make the attraction grow.

I suppose it depends on what you are looking for. If it's for a one night stand then go for the looks. No seriously. You cannot base a relationship on looks alone. If you do, it will never work out.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Tom_

Most people have a kid at school who is a tramp and smells worse than the sewers?

[LargeAndInCharge]

i agree mr luvaluva

[Dr43%er]

The girl I am with at the moment did not stand out as the stunner in the crowd, as I am sure I did not. But we got talking and we made each other laugh. We just felt comfy together. That is the most important thing in my eyes.

[~Kizwiz~]

For me looks dont matter but they can sometimes help. I dont judge anyone on their looks because often these things can be misleading. Like Baz said, first impressions on looks alone arent always what they are cracked up to be.

I go for intelligence and someone who makes me laugh and likes similar things to me.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~

I go for intelligence.

Did you make an exception for Red?

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

Did you make an exception for Red?

Well I didnt like to point that one out

[LargeAndInCharge]

OUCH mrluvaluva

lol

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

Did you make an exception for Red?

Its a good job he aint on tibb.... he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by ~kizwiz~

Its a good job he aint on tibb.... he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time

Ooh. Might I have seen some red letters against my post? Lol.

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Mrluvaluva

Ooh. Might I have seen some red letters against my post? Lol.

Maybe not.....

[Dr43%er]

"he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time"

Is the move on then?

[~Kizwiz~]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
"he's not in the best of moods right now. Lots to do and so little time"

Is the move on then?

We dont know.... our buyer is going really slowly and we should have exchanged by now

[Dr43%er]

Buggers.

[serensilver]

looks do matter to most people if you had to pick between i dunno say Brad Pitt or Tony Blair who u gonna pick or Catherine Zeta Jones or Ann Widdecombe who u gonna pick?

Personality is very important in a relationship but look are also very important for most people i think!

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by serensilver

Catherine Zeta Jones or Ann Widdecombe who u going to pick?

Ann Widdecombe?

[serensilver]

[Captain.Remy]

Of course ! I mean, people actually should stop being hypocritical by saying 'only personality matters'. Nope it's wrong. Will you seriously be dating someone ugly or someone you do not find attractive ?
First you have looks and then personality when you go deeper.

Our societies make us think that looks matter with advertising. People who say 'Only personality matters' are more hypocritical because they spend a lot of time by buying new clothes and taking care of themselves.

But I do agree to say that personality can chance your mind on a person, but unless you are blind, you automatically make a judgement before talking to the person only based on the looks.

[MrGaryy]

I think that subconsiouly (sp) we all go for looks initally. Looks do matter to me but that doesn't mean that everything else is disregarded. I could never be with some one stupid or ignorant for example no matter how estectally pleasing they are!

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Captain.Remy

people actually should stop being hypocritical by saying 'only personality matters'.

Who said that?

Looks obvioulsy matter but they are only part of the equation. Someone might have a great personality but you find physically repulsive. You cannot base a relationship on that either. It is finding the right balance in a person. And everyone is attracted to different people.

As I said, looks are not the be all and end all.

[Dr43%er]

Good job for you really.

[Mrluvaluva]

Originally posted by Dr43%er
Good job for you really.

[Captain.Remy]

Message original : Mrluvaluva

Who said that?

Looks obvioulsy matter but they are only part of the equation. Someone might have a great personality but you find physically repulsive. You cannot base a relationship on that either. It is finding the right balance in a person. And everyone is attracted to different people.

As I said, looks are not the be all and end all.

I never said someone did on that topic. But generally people say that. I don't find it right since they do the contrary.

And I agree with you, it's a balance, but do not deny it has a significant part in your choice. And I also said that 'then personality when you go deeper.' because unless the contrary, you don't the personality before knowing how this person looks like.