[Cal.]

This may sound very shallow of me, but I had a close friend that I loved very much. We were inseprable for quite a while until I went to her house one day and her home was very unclean, I don't just mean untidy but sticky floor, moldy plates in the kitchen, dust in the bath unclean. I distanced myself from her because I pride myself in keeping myself clean and my personal space extremely tidy.

What are your views on unclean/messy homes?

[Marsh.]

Did she smell?

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Did she smell?

No, not at all. (I wouldn't be friends with a smelly person, but that's a different issue).

[Marsh.]

Well if she kept herself clean and didn't smell and stuff what was the issue with being friends with her?

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

Well if she kept herself clean and didn't smell and stuff what was the issue with being friends with her?

Because she had a dirty home.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Who Is She?

Because she had a dirty home.

But what's her home got to do with you? Did she make you sleep there?

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Marsh.

But what's her home got to do with you? Did she make you sleep there?

Nope, but me distancing myself has stopped that from happening.

[Jack_]

I don't really care, mine's pretty clean and tidy but why would I or anyone stop being friends with someone because their house is messy?

Unless you want to live with them I don't see the issue

[Crimson Dynamo]

I am not obsessive but keep a clean house and never leave dishes overnight or after meals. A daily hoover and the like. with brats its a full time fecking job.

[Jarrod]

I hate dirty rooms. I feel obliged to clean them if they are.

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Jarrod

I hate dirty rooms. I feel obliged to clean them if they are.

Eugh same.

[Marsh.]

Reminds me of the episode of Friends when Monica couldn't sleep thinking about that woman's dirty apartment so offered to clean it.

[Jack_]

You value the cleanliness of someone else's house that you may see once every so often over their friendship itself? Maybe it's just me but that's flawed logic

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

You value the cleanliness of someone else's house that you may see once every so often over their friendship itself? Maybe it's just me but that's flawed logic

It's flawed logic in your opinion.

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Who Is She?

It's flawed logic in your opinion.

In the opinions of most sane and rational people that value their friends more than their houses I'd imagine

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

In the opinions of most sane and rational people that value their friends more than their houses I'd imagine

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Who Is She?

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house?

It is a bit odd. If she herself was clean and presentable and you rarely ever went to her house why would you give up the friendship?

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Who Is She?

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house?

Yes...you don't live there, why do you care? Why you would effectively break off a friendship with someone and lose out on so many benefits like someone to call on when you're in need of help or advice, someone to go out with, someone you share stuff in common with etc etc just because you don't like the state of their house is beyond me. Surely you distance yourself from people that are rude, self-obsessed, nasty, untrustworthy...the usual things, not because of their house. Like...just don't go in it? Make excuses, not end a friendship

[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by Who Is She?

So I'm not sane for distancing myself from a friend with a filthy house?

you stopped talking to someone because of the state of their house?

[Kazanne]

I get the urge to tidy and clean messy homes,lol,but only because I enjoy doing it,one of my friends lives like a tramp but she's lovely so would never not be friends because of it,I befriended her,not her house

[Daniel.]

I hate them and I wouldn't use there cutlery lol

But It wouldn't affect the friendship

[Me. I Am Salman]

my house is immaculate, we even try to not eat in the living room to protect the carpet. once my mum's friend didn't take her shoes off and I was like the whole time

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Me. I Am Salman

my house is immaculate, we even try to not eat in the living room to protect the carpet. once my mum's friend didn't take her shoes off and I was like the whole time

[Sophiee]

I don't think it would affect my friendship with somebody if their house was dirty, although it is horrible. it wouldn't bother me at all if it was just messy though.

Originally Posted by Me. I Am Salman

my house is immaculate, we even try to not eat in the living room to protect the carpet. once my mum's friend didn't take her shoes off and I was like the whole time

it's a rule that everybody takes their shoes off as they enter in my house .

[Cal.]

Originally Posted by Sophiee

I don't think it would affect my friendship with somebody if their house was dirty, although it is horrible. it wouldn't bother me at all if it was just messy though.


it's a rule that everybody takes their shoes off as they enter in my house .

I think it's rude not to take your shoes off when you enter people's homes. It's a sign of respect if anything.