[Kate!]

Hi.

[thesheriff443]

Me

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Me

Hi. I'm so sad tonight. I miss my son so much.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Hi. I'm so sad tonight. I miss my son so much.

That’s understandable Kate, but as they grow up they choose their own path

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

That’s understandable Kate, but as they grow up they choose their own path

It's his 23rd birthday on Saturday.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Kate!

It's his 23rd birthday on Saturday.

Will you get to see him?

[Kate!]

I'm so soft. I should be tougher than this. It's been 2 years.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I'm so soft. I should be tougher than this. It's been 2 years.

Your his mum, so it’s not about being tough, my partners son blamed her for the breakdown of her marriage so she was on a similar position and it was heartbreaking but she Diogo even up and over time they have become close again.

[Kate!]

I've been out tonight. Early birthday celebration for me. Got home and just started crying like a loony. My boyfriends fast asleep.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I've been out tonight. Early birthday celebration for me. Got home and just started crying like a loony. My boyfriends fast asleep.

I think it’s harder for men to get how heartbreaking it is, because at first I saw it as him being cruel, but he was dealing with his family unit breaking apart

[Swan]

Im sorry to hear that Kate. It might not help, but i've not spoken to my Dad for over 3 years. It's not rare, that's all im say.

[Kate!]

Oh thats so sad Swan. X

[Swan]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Oh thats so sad Swan. X

Well im sure your situation is much different, but if im honest i don't care for that man at all, so it doesn't bother me.

Really hope you get your relationship worked out with your son.

[rusticgal]

Family rifts are so common. I rarely speak to my brothers… people say life is so short, forgive and forget, but that’s easily said and done. He is only young still…maybe he will come around and reach out. If you have reached out and he has not responded then there is little you can do except keep trying and hope that one day he will respond.
My heart breaks for you…just never give up hope.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by rusticgal

Family rifts are so common. I rarely speak to my brothers… people say life is so short, forgive and forget, but that’s easily said and done. He is only young still…maybe he will come around and reach out. If you have reached out and he has not responded then there is little you can do except keep trying and hope that one day he will respond.
My heart breaks for you…just never give up hope.

Good advice here

[Kate!]

I feel so guilty. Because he's on his own in the world. His dad's not in his life either.

[Kate!]

I don't know where he is. I don't know if he's safe..well.. or happy? It's like a bereavement.

[Redway]

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Kate!

I don't know where he is. I don't know if he's safe..well.. or happy? It's like a bereavement.

Well that is a hard place to be, not knowing is a head fcuk in itself

Life does test us at times to breaking point

[Kate!]

Thank you everyone

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Kate!

Thank you everyone

There is no need to thank us, at the end of the day we all have feelings and emotions and things we would like to change but can’t .

Tomorrow is another day!

[AnnieK]

[Cherie]

It's very sad that you have lost touch Kate, did something happen between you to cause the rift or did he just drift off? It must be a worry if you don't know where he is, is there any way you can find where he is and start up contact again?

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Cherie

It's very sad that you have lost touch Kate, did something happen between you to cause the rift or did he just drift off? It must be a worry if you don't know where he is, is there any way you can find where he is and start up contact again?

He just disappeared totally out of the blue Cherie. Wiped me out of his social media etc. The whole kit and caboodle. It's like he's no longer on the planet.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Kate!

He just disappeared totally out of the blue Cherie. Wiped me out of his social media etc. The whole kit and caboodle. It's like he's no longer on the planet.

Have you had a previously good relationship? It might be that he was hurt that you moved area, he might have thought that he should have been consulted.

I think sometimes we think our kids don't need us any more when they move out but they generally do, if I were you I would try my best to find him and reconnect, he might be regretting his decision now but too proud to get in touch, can you start with any of his mates?