[Urban Cragou]

Loud, low or somewhere in-between?

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

I need volume control.

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

I need volume control.

You’re lucky you don’t have the opposite problem. Being told to speak up often gets really old and annoying.

[Christmas Dynasnow]

When i am out with my girls I get scolded and told to use my indoor voice like in a shop or whatever

[Urban Cragou]

I wish I could talk louder by-default but naturally I’m pretty low and speaking up more than the necessary amount just feels awks (to say the least). I’ve always been quietly-spoken (I was that person who was given the longest speaking role in my Year 3 nativity play because I had the best memory and articulation otherwise but was given it only with hesitance and had to really practice raising the tone of my voice because talking loudly without a microphone just wasn’t my strong point, just like it never has been). When I got to puberty the inevitable changes that come with a guy’s voice hit me like a ton of bricks and it’s just gotten worse over the years. It’s not a big problem but it is very noticeable in noisy environments where you really have to shout to be heard. People who have only ever heard me in a crowded bar or in a loud chippy think that the low-voice thing is worse than it actually is in normal environments where the amount of background noise is moderate/normal. It’s not as bad as some people might’ve thought at various points in the past but I could still do with more projection capacity. But then again more people would just say it’s a very calming and mellowingly-deep voice. Some people are just a little deaf and/or extra-biased against quietness, as if using anything like your indoors voice is a weakness even when you’re … indoors-indoors. Some people just have an instinctive prejudice against people who aren’t loud just for t’sake of being loud. They’re not exactly fun to be around in libraries.

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

When i am out with my girls I get scolded and told to use my indoor voice like in a shop or whatever

“Dad, you’re embarrassing me. You’re not supposed to tell me that so loudly in public.”

[Parmy]

I was once called the booming voice on a forum

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by parmnion

I was once called the booming voice on a forum

What forum was that?

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Redway

What forum was that?

Might have been the old channel 4 BB forum that ran for the first 4 series.

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Might have been the old channel 4 BB forum that ran for the first 4 series.

So how did they know what you sounded like?

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Redway

So how did they know what you sounded like?

Its was my username.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by parmnion

I was once called the booming voice on a forum

[Holly Christmas]

I talk loudly and often get told off.

[bots]

when i was a drinker i used to get louder and louder with each passing pint. Mrs Bots always gave me that "behave yourself" look

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

when i was a drinker i used to get louder and louder with each passing pint. Mrs Bots always gave me that "behave yourself" look

Some people are mellow even when they’re very drunk but generally even the quietest people at least act (if not talk) a little bit louder when they’re under the influence. No-one can keep a totally serene outer equilibrium on tequila rose. No-one.

[ChristmasNeeve]

I'd say in between quiet and average

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'd say in between quiet and average

Ditto (when the atmosphere’s regular and it’s just a case of normal talking rather than projecting). Otherwise it sounds very low indeed.

[user104658]

I wouldn't say I'm quiet in normal conversation but have a similar issue with my voice being quite deep. It's fine in normal circumstances and I wouldn't say quiet - but I do struggle to "project" louder than normal e.g. public speaking or in a loud environment like a bar. I can actively feel the strain and a lump building in my throat .

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I wouldn't say I'm quiet in normal conversation but have a similar issue with my voice being quite deep. It's fine in normal circumstances and I wouldn't say quiet - but I do struggle to "project" louder than normal e.g. public speaking or in a loud environment like a bar. I can actively feel the strain and a lump building in my throat .

Does it annoy you when people keep telling you that you’re too quiet/low in your voice or have you gotten to the point when you’re just unapologetically yourself and anyone who doesn’t like it can f-off kind of thing?

[user104658]

I also physically CAN'T scream at a high pitch which my kids find hilarious, and like to attack & tickle me, as I hate being tickled, and my natural inclination is to scream, but instead it comes out as this breathy, strangulated warble. APPARENTLY that is very funny .

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I also physically CAN'T scream at a high pitch which my kids find hilarious, and like to attack & tickle me, as I hate being tickled, and my natural inclination is to scream, but instead it comes out as this breathy, strangulated warble. APPARENTLY that is very funny .

I’d like to hear you at Six Flags, New Jersey. That might activate your inner scream.

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Redway

I’d like to hear you at Six Flags, New Jersey. That might activate your inner scream.

I've actually never been one to scream on rides/rollercoasters. Not that I like them or that I'm not screaming internally - just always been more of a "wide eyes, clenched jaw and white knuckles" look than a scream .

I won't go on anything these days though, I've seen too many horror stories on TikTok about broken seats, derailed rides and lost limbs .

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I've actually never been one to scream on rides/rollercoasters. Not that I like them or that I'm not screaming internally - just always been more of a "wide eyes, clenched jaw and white knuckles" look than a scream .

I won't go on anything these days though, I've seen too many horror stories on TikTok about broken seats, derailed rides and lost limbs .

Half of what you see on TikTok (especially when it comes from anyone under the age of 21) ought to be taken with a pinch of salt. That incident in Alton Towers in 2015 was one of the first and last incidents I’ve credibly heard of involving someone getting stuck or losing half a limb (and, I mean, bless them). It’s not as common as you seem to think.

[Parmy]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

I also physically CAN'T scream at a high pitch which my kids find hilarious, and like to attack & tickle me, as I hate being tickled, and my natural inclination is to scream, but instead it comes out as this breathy, strangulated warble. APPARENTLY that is very funny .

Beautiful...I love this post.

[Tinsel Toes]

Brian Blessed what a booming voice too much for me , i used to have a friend ( sadly passed)with a booming voice like Brian and i used to say can't you speak quieter ? the whole bloody pub knows whats your saying but it was him and how he spoke,big and loud.